Consent is given freely, not coerced or pressured. Consenting to one thing does not mean you consent to more. If you don't understand the request, ask to have it clarified. A “yes” should be enthusiastic or it's a no. You can change your mind at any time.
It’s not about having the most fabulous, over the top costume. Just express yourself in whatever form is right for you. If that means dressing down, that’s ok too (but please NEVER wears jeans, khaki or sportswear to Kinky Salon)
The Kinky Salon community is created through the efforts of everyone involved. If you want to volunteer at an event it’s easy- just sign up on the website. If you want to perform or have a creative offering, just email and let us know. We would love to hear from you.
If someone makes you uncomfortable, for ANY reason, then you should let them know. That includes touching without asking, saying something that offends you, or even just looking at you in a way you don’t like. Be nice, be graceful, but be firm.
Be clear about what your safe sex practices are, and never stick your finger up someone’s butt without asking first.
Being respectful towards each other and our environment means that we can build an atmosphere of trust. Kinky Salon is an inclusive community and we welcome folks of all sexual orientations, gender expressions, abilities, body types, and racial identities/ethnicities. Disrespectful behaviour will not be tolerated at Kinky Salon.
Like, really people.
Consent is sexy. It doesn't always have to be verbal, and even a verbal yes can be unreliable if power dynamics or trauma are in play. Be empathic when seeking a yes. If you aren't sure, walk away! Consent is never inferred from silence, passivity, or a lack of resistance.
Please, please, please, don’t hang out on your own watching people! It makes them feel uncomfortable and it makes you look like a Wanky McJerkoff!!
Learn to know the difference between ‘playing hard to get’ and ‘get the fuck outta my face’. If you are given a hint, then take it.
Having a couple of drinks is fine, we are all grown ups here. But if you get shit-faced we will notice and we will kick you out. Learn more about our drug policy here.
We usually have a booth to capture your fabulous outfit, so keep your cameras AND your cellphones stashed for the duration.
Cellphone use is not welcome at Kinky Salon. Keep your phone stashed. If you need to use your phone, take it outside. That means calls, texting, social networking… ANY use of your phone is prohibited.
NEVER mention names or specific activities on any public blogs or message boards. What happens at Kinky Salon stays at Kinky Salon.
Getting it wrong online could jeopardize your future attendance at Kinky Salon so please pay attention and read all our guidelines. “I didn't realize” is not an excuse.
“May I send you a message?” Is an appropriate first message. Gracefully move on if they don't respond. A “yes” is not an invitation to an x-rated interaction.
Consent is given freely, not coerced or pressured. Consenting to one thing does not mean you consent to more. If you don't understand the request, ask to have it clarified. A “yes” should be enthusiastic or it's a no. You can change your mind at any time.
If someone is making you uncomfortable for any reason let them know. If someone says you are making them uncomfortable, apologize and immediately change your behavior without questioning or getting defensive.
Everyone who attends our virtual events or logs into our social network has the right to do so without getting unwanted attention or having their boundaries crossed. If someone is bugging you, harassing you, pressuring you, or not listening when you tell them their behavior is making you uncomfortable please report it immediately. We will believe you and we will act swiftly.
We have zero tolerance for racist, sexist, ableist, ageist, transphobic, homophobic, classist, or body shaming behavior. Subtle prejudices that result from cultural programming usually go unchecked, but not here. If you are called you out please be graceful and apologize. We are all learning and growing together.
Just like at a Kinky Salon event, our virtual events and social network are full of sexy, creative people expressing themselves. These humans have feelings and sometimes the internet is a tough place to communicate them, so please be extra mindful in all your interactions.
Exploring the virtual world can give a sense of distance and safety, but boundaries and consent online are as important as they are in real life. Presence here doesn't mean you are invited to interact. Clicking 
to connect is the first move. If someone doesn't respond, or asks you not to interact with them, gracefully move on.
Just like in the playspaces at Kinky Salon, navigating our x-rated play spaces at our virtual events requires extra guidelines. Each room will have its own code of conduct posted, so please make sure you check in before you whip it out.
We believe in bare-chest equality. Free the nipple!
You can block specific users from seeing your profile and contacting you by navigating to their profile and clicking “block”. At the live events you can click the little eye by their username in the right column to restrict their view of your feed. You can hide photos in your “passkey” album and only give specific people access. If you don't want to be seen in our social network or receive any private messages or friend requests, you can edit your account and check “private profile” and “Block Instant Messages”
If you could have serious repercussions if the word got out that you were part of the Kinky Salon community, please wear a costume that disguises your identity at virtual events and move your identifying photos into your passkey album.
Kinky Salon is a small community without the resources for a big tech support team. We are too sexy for most online tools. This site is full of fun and possibility if you let go of your expectations that it will all be perfect! But please do let us know if something isn't working.
Our virtual events and social network are sex-forward but not sex-centric. Please put your junk away unless you're in a designated x-rated area or private chat where you have received clear, unpressured, specific consent. Touching yourself off-screen while talking to someone is also totally creepy. Don't do it and please report it if you see it! The only place you can post genital photos on this site is in your “passkey” album, with specific consent via private message, or in an x-rated playspace. Posting genital photos to your profile, in groups, or sending via instant message without consent will get you immediately banned from the site and all future events.
Abusing this platform by using it to spam multiple users with a copy and pasted invitation to interact is inappropriate and we will notice! Your membership will be revoked.
KS+ is a place to make authentic connections. Say hi. Turn on your webcam. Be part of the community.
Each message or video chat is different. Some will be friends saying hello. Some will be flirty. Some might get x-rated. Consenting to a private exchange is not an invitation to have an x-rated interaction. Don't be pushy. Consent is ongoing and should be negotiated as thoughtfully as an in-person interaction.
Seriously, this is really not cool. Taking screenshots is breaking a sacred oath with your community. We trust you not to do this.